My close friend is having a destination wedding and wants to have a destination bachelorette party. It’s not unreasonable to decline the bachelorette party, right? And when I do decline, should I do it sooner or later? I’m afraid that if I wait that everyone will have agreed to go and I’ll be that last person saying “SORRY GUYS” but I don’t want to be the first person to put my foot down. Cost of bachelorette party for 3 days is about $800.

Steph: Do it sooner than later.  Let her and the Maid of Honor/Bridesmaids (or whoever is planning it) that you would love to join in the festivities but that you simply can’t afford it.  People won’t give you a hard time for not being able to fork over almost $1,000 (because trust me, don’t forget about spending cash for food, drinks, and you have to pay for the bride-to-be too).  Simply let her know that you really wish you could make it but you’re saving up for her big day instead.  Everyone will understand.